No Regrets

As I look back over this past season and especially what has transpired in the last 2 months I am reminded once again that God has a plan and He alone is in control.  I will spare you the details of the past 2 months but things were very similar to the Roller Coaster post from last May.  As a side note, I really hope that this is NOT and every year thing... not sure I could take that.

Anyway, in spite of all that has happened there is one thing I can say with unwavering confidence: I have no regrets! 

The point about having no regrets is for several reasons.  First and foremost, its about my approach for the season.  I went into this season with a very different way of coaching, God's Way.  I wanted to show that it could be done and that it could be successful.  I prayed earnestly both before and during about how I was to do this.  I know without a shadow of a doubt that everything I did pleased God and that was what I set out to do.  I was speaking to someone just after things happened and without even thinking about the following  words came out of my mouth, "I know I did things how God wanted me to.  I know I brought glory to Him." To which the person replied, "That's all you can do."  For this very reason, I have no regrets and nothing anyone says or does can make me think otherwise.  Some people may say I did things wrong or things were not good enough, but it wasn't for people I was doing it.  I know this is a strange concept in coaching and it might not go over too well with a lot of people but again it is NOT for people I do it.  If it were, I could not be sitting here talking about no regrets.  I'd be sitting here writing about second guessing myself and wondering what if, but the truth is I am not, and that is because of who I coach for and why I coach.  I coach for God.  I don't coach for myself, my players, their parents of anyone or anything else.  I coach because God has laid a specific call on my life to do so.  He has called me to do this and I do it for no other reason but to bring glory to Him and please Him. Ecclesiastes 2:26a says, "To the person who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness."  So why wouldn't we want to please Him?

Another reason I have no regrets is the relationship I built with 18 wonderful young ladies and many of the parents.  I know many of these will be friendships that last a lifetime.  I know God brought each one of these people into my life for a reason.  Many of them still stand behind me and support me through this time.  That has made things a little easier to swallow.  If it were not for their love and support during the season and during this difficult time, things would have been much worse.  

Through it all I have been constantly reminding myself, 'ALL FOR HIS GLORY'!!  If I didn't believe that life would be much worse. 

86,400 -- How will you use it?

Wow almost a month....I've been busy.  The following post was suppose to be the devotional that I was gonna share at Family Time with the basketball team this week for that didn't happen (I'll explain later, maybe :-)).  So I thought I'd share it on here because I know God lead me to this specific devotion for a reason.

 

The follow comes from a devotional book by legendary coach John Wooden and former coach and player Jay Carthy. 

Ephesians 5:15-16 -- So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise.  Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. (NLT)

If every morning your bank credited your account with $86,400 but every evening canceled whatever part of the amount you failed to use, what would you do?  Spend every cent -- of course!

Well we have such a bank account -- it is called time.  Every day it credits you with 86,400 seconds.  At midnight, whatever you failed to use is lost.  A balance is not carried over to the next day and you're not allowed overdrafts.  Each day the bank named Time opens a new account with you.  Each night it burns the records for the day.  If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours.  This thought from Christian comedian Robert G Lee, helps put value into each day.  The apostle Paul also had a take on time.  He wrote to the Christians in Ephesus and suggested that they make each day a masterpiece.  As wise person, he pointed out, will make the most of his or her time.  Paul also urges us to be filled with the Spirit.  Having God's power helps us say no to the bad stuff and yes to God's will.  How will you spend your 84,600 seconds today?  How can you make today a masterpiece?  

I love this devotional.  It is a great reminder that each day we have is a gift.  It reminds me of one of my favorite poems.  One I ALWAYS carry with me in my wallet.  

This Is The Beginning of a New Day

This is the beginning of a new day.
God has given me this day to use as I will.
I can waste it or use it for good,
but what I do today is important
because I am exchanging a day of my life for it.
When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever,
leaving in its place something that I have traded for it.
I want it to be gain and not loss; good and not evil;
success and not failure; in order that I shall not
regret the price I have paid for it.

'Unknown'


I LOVE that poem...  Again it reminds us that each day is a gift from God and how we use that day is our gift to God.  As each of the 86,400 seconds are gone we will NEVER get them back and that makes each one important and valuable.  God gives me free will to decide how to use it.  My hope is that no matter what I will use it for Him and make it count in the lives of those around.  That is what I try to do in not only my coaching but in my life in general.  I may never know how much impact I have until I stand before Him but as long as I stay true to what I believe and what He has called me to do I know He will smile and say "well done good and faithful servant."  In the long run that's ALL that matters.

One last thing this reminded me of is a song I hear so often on the radio.  I posted the link below.  I hope you will listen to it and really take in the words because I think it sums up this entire post.
 Live like We're Dying by Kris Allen

One Mind

Weird thing happened at the game today.  I was walking down the hallway on the way to the restroom and I heard a fan from the opposing team say"what does that mean on the back of tier jersey, 'one mind'.  That's not their name is it."  I smiled and stopped momentarily to answer her but before the words came out a thought came to my mind.  Do I really know what it means?  I continued down the hallway with that thought in my mind and it lingered there the rest of the day.  Along with that was the thought, 'do my players really know what that means?  They wear it on their jersey every game.  Some even tweet about it before or after games, but my guess is they really don't have a grasp of what it really means.  They all know that it comes from the verse that out teams were build on.  1 Corinthians 1:10, "I appeal to you, brothers, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment."  Now those of you familiar with Scripture will know that Paul wrote this to a church that was struggling because they all wanted to do their own things and follow a way.  What they didn't realize is when it came right down to it, they were all still following God they just didn't see it because they were too busy arguing about how to follow God correctly.  What Paul wanted them to understand was that the important part was that they JUST followed God NOT how they did it.  So how does that fit our basketball team.

One Mind -- That is what we were built on.  That means that we as a team and as an organization  agree to the purpose of why we are there and why we do what we do, that is to bring honor and glory to God win or loose.  That is the surface matter.  However its the underlying matter that I am afraid that so many of our players have missed.   This takes me back to the last post about commitment.  I'd like to repost a part of that here as it fits perfectly.

Basketball is very much a team sport.  Each player, coach, parent, fan, etc.  must all be committed to the game in order for it to work properly.  As a member of the team, each player must also commit to the good of the team rather than self.  Once a player breaks that commitment and turns to self, they have no place on the team and if that player isn't soon dealt with the entire team suffers.  This is a hard job as a coach.  Probably one of the hardest but its something that needs to be done.  I usually try and give people the benefit of the doubt but when it comes to commitment, there is no room for that because with commitment you are either in or out there is NO in between!!!!

So what does that have to do with having one mind?  Well lets say a player stays up into the wee hours of the morning just goofing off and having fun, knowing full well they have an early game the next day.  The next day comes and the rest of the team is dependent on that player to do well but because that player stayed up late they have no energy and play horrible.  Because this player is seen as a leader it brings the rest of the team down.  Now when that player decided to stay up all night were they being of "one mind" with the rest of their team?  NOPE!!!  They only thought of themselves and what they wanted and didn't think about how it would impact the team.  See when we are a team we MUST be committed to the team and we must be of ONE MIND.  That doesn't mean that we just say we are up front and then go about our business, that doens't mean that we only are when our teammates or coaches are watching or around.  It means that EVERYTHING we say and do 24/7 is for the team and that we think about how it will impact them.  You see when you are a part of a team you have others that depend on you even if you don't want them to.  That's what being a part of a team means.  ONE MIND ISN'T JUST ABOUT TALKING THE TALK, IT'S ABOUT WALKING THE WALK!!!  It all effects the team 24/7/365...ONE MIND = NO EXCUSES!!!!

 

Commitment

Been so busy didn't realize its been 2 weeks since last post.  So here you go.

Over the last week or so an issue has come up that just irritates me to no end.  So much so that I can't get past it even days later so for what it is worth here is my rant on that issue... COMMITMENT

To me commitment is HUGE!!!  I am a firm believer that once you make a commitment to someone or something that you should stick to it no matter what.  I know things don't always go how they are promised and yes I have been in situations where I was promised something and then that person did not come through BUT does that mean we are to not follow through on our commitment?  ABSOLUTELY NOT!!

See there is something I believe goes so hand in hand with commitment that the two cannot be separated, integrity.  Now if I think commitment is huge then integrity is not only the foundation of that commitment but also the frame that holds it all together and the roof under which it sits.  To me, my word is just as good as a contract on paper.  If I tell someone I will do something, it is as good as done.  Problem is not everyone is that way but I feel they are.  If my word is gold then I tend to believe everyone else's is as well and tend to get upset when I find out different. It is hard to explain just how important commitment is to me. 

If you look the word commitment up in the dictionary one of the words used to define it is obligation which then is define as the act of binding or obliging oneself by a promise, contract or a sense of duty.  Simply put it is something you MUST do.  So to me if you say you will do something, I take it to mean you WILL do it.  I really don't think that is too much to ask.  

When my husband and I stood at the front of friends and family in a small church in Alabama, we made a commitment to love each other for the rest of our lives.  Now there are times we get mad at each other and may not like each other for one reason or another but NOTHING would keep us from loving each other because that is a commitment we made and we both take not only that but all our commitments seriously.  

Unfortunately too many people today are very flippant in their commitments.  Too many times they say they will do something knowing full well they have no intention of doing it.  I am sorry to say I have no place for these people in my life and to put it more frankly they have no place in team sports either.  I have seen it too many times.  A player says they want to be a part of the team and wants to play but when it comes right down to it all they really care is themselves.  They have no desire to be part of a team but only want the glory and recognition for themselves.  Basketball is very much a team sport.  Each player, coach, parent, fan, etc.  must all be committed to the game in order for it to work properly.  As a member of the team, each player must also commit to the good of the team rather than self.  Once a player breaks that commitment and turns to self, they have no place on the team and if that player isn't soon dealt with the entire team suffers.  This is a hard job as a coach.  Probably one of the hardest but its something that needs to be done.  I usually try and give people the benefit of the doubt but when it comes to commitment, there is no room for that because with commitment you are either in or out there is NO in between!!!!

Team Effort

God never ceases to amaze me in the way He conducts my life.  He also knows what people I need in my life on any given day.  What is more amazing to me is when He puts me in a situation where I think I am the one going to be teaching and helping but it turns out I am the one that does the learning and receiving.  Even though this basketball season is less than 2 weeks old, this is on of those situations.

I came into the season ready to teach, guide and guide my players not only in basketball but in life.  I was ready to lead them on the court, in Bible study and in life lessons.  I was ready to help them learn what it meant to play for Christ and honor and glorify God in all things.  I was ready to show them that you can show love and respect to your opponents and how to be the young ladies God intended them to be.  Little did I know that they would also teach me.

This past weekend was a true testament to that.

I started writing this post 4 days ago on Nov 12. It is now late night Nov 15 into wee hours Nov 16th.  Little did I know then just how real it would come to be.   My intent was to write about how the girls had taught me about certain things over their efforts and encouragement and motivation during team huddles at recent games.  About how they would come into the huddle and literally start talking to each other about what they needed to do and what was and wasn't working and as a coach you just stand and smile and let them finish because sometimes it means more coming from a teammate.  That was my intent BUT after the most recent game my mind went a different direction. 

I must say it was a hard game to watch and coach.  There are times as a coach you have nothing to say because things are going so well and then there are times like this game.  Times you're not sure what to say because nothing seems right.  I know as their coach they look at me for all the answers to what they are doing wrong and how to do what needs to be done, but honestly sometimes I don't know.  It breaks my heart but I just don't know.

I think the problem is that over the past few years of coaching teams that are "less competitive" I have lost my edge.  I have mellowed myself out so much that I tend to shove those emotions down when they start to arise for fear of saying the wrong thing or "hurting their feelings".  The teams over the last 3 years I had to do that and now that I have a team that needs it, I can't seem to bring myself to do.  I have passed it off as just being the "Christian coach" I want to be but that still doesn't work.  Tonight while watching videos to find clips to motivate my team, God used them to speak to me.  And I realized I have been fooling myself and my team. 

You see because of the mindset over the last few years, I realized I have not bee putting my entire effort into coaching this team the way they need to be coached.  I was dancing around the issue trying to the "Christian coach" I feel called to be.  In reality I was not being that Christian coach.  God created me to be who I am for a reason, emotions and all.  I realized that if I am not giving everything I have to my coaching, emotions, heart, desire, effort, then how in the world could I ask my players to do the same!!  I have always told myself and my players that I would NEVER ask them to do anything that I wouldn't do.  Guess I blew that one tonight!!!

So God has used them greatly to teach me but not the lesson I thought it was 4 days ago when I first began writing this blog post.  But I believe that this is a far greater lesson for both myself and them and that it will help all of us grow together.  I only hope that we can meet talk about, learn from, forgive and move on from this lesson and be all the more stronger on the other side.  It's all about the team effort we give and it starts with the coach!!!

 

Nicely Done

So the first official game for both teams is in the books and I must say I couldn't be more proud of them both.  White did an outstanding job executing to near perfection everything that was asked.  Everyone contributed and they came out with a huge win.  Blue team did outstanding.  They too executed well and if not for missed free throws and a few bad plays at the end would have pulled it out.


It's amazing as a coach to see the progression of the team over the course of the season.  Its been even more so with the group of girls.  We have had a long preseason getting ready for things and really haven't had much to judge our progress by.  But tonight proved we are right on track for both teams having a great season.  Each team has gotten better and better over the last few weeks.  The chemistry is finally starting to come around.  I realized tonight just how good these teams will be this season and even caught myself a few times being more of a fan than a coach and just enjoying watching them do what they do and do it well.  It was nice but I soon had to get back the reality and be a coach again.  It is a great feeling as a coach to watch from the sideline and see your team do exactly as they have been taught.  I hope they too can see that in themselves. 

I told both teams 2 things before tip-off. 1.) No matter what happens out there, be able to go home and look at yourself in the mirror and know you gave it your all, 2.) Above all, remember Who you are playing for.  They got the message!  They definitely  gave it there all and should look proudly in the mirror.  More importantly they played for their Audience of One and  brought honor and glory to Him in their actions and attitudes.  So my message to team tonight.... NICELY DONE, YOU ARE B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L

Progress

It's amazing to look back over the past month and see the progress things have made. Being a country girl.  I compare it to farm tractors.  Less than two weeks ago I felt like we were kinda like this.

We had a scrimmage this week and it was good to see that we had made great progress.  I'd say we were a little more like this:

Our goal of course would be to be more like this:

I do see us getting there but it will take time.  Right now we are in the process of tweaking the little things we need to in order to make things happen the way we want.  It is also the process of team chemistry.  Seeing that most of these girls have not played together at all or that much makes things hard on them.  Once they learn each other and really start to "gel" I think things will really start coming around.  To me that is one of the hardest things about coaching because it is something I can't control of fix and really have nothing to do with.  You just have to sit back and let it happen.  You can't force it and push it to move faster and depending on the team you never know how long it will take.  Just have to wait for it.

The good part is that my players can see the progress they have made and know things are working.  One of them even said it was just a matter of time and when the chemistry come around we'd be much better.  Its nice to know they feel the same.  I think maybe some team building may be in order.    That will really help.  As I told a parent the other night, when things come around and really start clicking they will be fun to watch.  WE will all be sitting on the edge of our seat until til because we know its just a matter of time.  We are still :